Paul says in Romans 12, “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” Sisters in the church say they want an organic dating relationship that springs from friendship, but it tends to keep them from considering certain brothers.Other times, when a brother comes out of left field and asks a sister out to coffee, it feels aggressive.It was hard to bring up at first because it seemed petty, but I’d get short with him and passive aggressive. So we talked about ways that his responses can indicate more emotion.I suggested he use emojis and let me know when he’s in the middle of something and needs more time to respond. Meanwhile, I confess I have a short attention span and tend to check my notifications while I’m on the phone with Andy.
I was surprised by how much we had in common and the chemistry we felt, but I would’ve never known if I rejected him.
Personally, I’ve noticed it’s more difficult to have substantive conversations in person than on the phone.
When Andy suggested praying after our first date, I felt awkward.
Both of us are people pleasers, so it’s easy to persuade ourselves to let our closest family members influence our decisions.
But we remind each other that family is important but comes second to our relationship.