The fact is that strong relationships develop slowly over time with much hard work and commitment.
Most students I talk to on my show, Dawson Mc Allister Live, are so anxious to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, sometimes just to feel loved.
But sadly, many people want to feel that rush of emotion that makes them feel like they are in love. The truth is that the best dating relationships develop out of great friendships.
So they push hard and quickly to feel that overwhelming emotion that says, I am in love. Riah describes how rushing into a relationship has a lot of disadvantages: “First, if you go too far you could get hurt mentally because of a bad break-up, and physically you could get an STD or something.
I do not trust men and I feel the need to test them to see if they will hurt me.
When a girl is hurt by a male or she lives life with an absent father figure, there is a void in her soul and she searches high and low to fill it.
Just because a guy says they like something about you doesn’t mean you need to get in a relationship.
Some guys can talk but it doesn’t mean you need to fall head over heels for them.
The truth is, this feeling of urgency and intensity or strong attraction toward another person is not necessarily a reliable indicator of whether you are in love or should immediately dive into a serious dating relationship.
“Well if you’re going on dates, you’re boyfriend and girlfriend, right? Many of us have had tons of these ‘relationships’ over the course of our young adult lives, yet never a proper boyfriend or girlfriend.
But - although it is rare - sometimes one of you actually does want something serious after all.
We need to keep telling ourselves the basic truths of a healthy and truly loving relationship. While you spend time getting to know someone as a friend, you are able to see more clearly whether they are right for you and you for them.
There is no more valuable friend to a dating relationship than time. Impatience is a sure sign of relational immaturity that will lead to hurt unimaginable.